Thursday, December 16, 2010


I have always been very strong-willed, stubborn and independent.  I grew up believing in women’s rights, and “Girl Power!” Many girls dream of their wedding and babies.  Not me.  I was never going to get married (and this was BEFORE my parents got divorced.)  I was going to adopt a lot of children and “live off the land.”  I didn’t need a man in my life. 

When the time came that my parents got divorced, my feminism was still just as strong.  My friends, who led me to Christ, always talked about submission and following their future husbands.  I never wanted to be that way.  I never wanted to have a man tell me what to do, and how to do things.  I argued to no-end about submission and how degrading it was as a woman. 

Fast forward to today. I am really feeling the need to trust in God and to follow Him.  I am not well versed in the Bible, but I want to be.  I want to learn all there is to learn within the Word of God.  I want to be a God-fearing woman, and all that comes with it (including submission.)

I have not talked to Todd about this yet but I’m pretty sure he will pass out.  I haven’t talked to him about wanting to join a church, daily devotionals, prayer time, submission, or any of it.  We went to church together ONCE in our relationship, and that was after I got out of the hospital.  Todd didn’t like the church; however, I did. 

I’m not sure Todd would be as willing as I am to make a change in our lives such as this one.  But all I can do is pray, and follow the teachings of the Bible.

I’m starting to ramble.  The point of this post is that I am seeking references.  Does anyone have any suggestions of books that I can start reading about submission, or any great daily devotionals?    

I hope this post doesn’t offend anyone.  I’m really not quite sure how this will all work out.  Only time will tell, but I know whatever happens is His plan for me.


  1. One of my favorite books on this topic is A Woman after God's own Heart by Elizabeth George. There's a lot of mommy advice that you don't need yet, but the book is full of good stuff. ;-) Highly recommend this one.

    I'm currently reading a book called The Excellent Wife about this topic. I won't necessarily recommend this one though, as I believe it often goes WAY too far in placing all the blame/responsibility on the wife, but there have been a few great tidbits I've gotten from this book as well. Read at your own risk very cautiously , if you choose!

    One last note...this is an area I'm still struggling mightily with...even after 13+ years of marriage. It isn't easy to truly submit (especially when I believe my husband to be making bad decisions or not treating me properly) and it SO goes against the conventional thinking of the world these days, but I truly do believe God honors us wives when we try to do this the way He intended.

    Feel free to email me anytime on this subject! Not that I have all the answers, mind you, but it's a subject I've recently been spending MUCH time researching and trying (although mostly failing) to put into practice.

  2. Good luck in your journey to find a new church home! We are currently on the same journey. My aunt bought me a new devotions bible thats just for moms and it was put together by MOPS. I'm going to start reading it after the new years! Its the bible with daily devotions after each chapter and how it relates to your life as a mother.

  3. Hey Meg! I'm glad to see this post! You know I am a big one on submission! It is SO important to submit to your husband as he is the head of you, like Christ is the head of the church. One thing I like to say to women who are learning about submission is is NOT like your husband becomes a dictator or something...he does not go around barking orders at you like you are a slave...your husband needs to treat you with love and love you as he loves himself! Rob always takes my opinion into consideration when deciding something...and I even submit to him when I feel like he made the wrong choice...MY job, as wife, is to submit to Rob...and support him...NOT to make sure he's right! the best book you can read on the topic is the Bible! Read Ephesians 5:22-33 for starters :0) We are good friends,meg, so feel free to email me if you want to discuss things and I'll try to help you find what you are looking for in the Bible... :0) Love you and am proud of you!